Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Choose You: Here’s the Real Way to Find Your Person.

“To find your person, you often have to become the version of yourself your person is also searching for.”

Relationships are hard—like “trying to fold a fitted sheet while your toddler uses it as a trampoline” hard. And finding your person? That’s a different level of adventure. It’s somewhere between solving a Rubik's Cube blindfolded and trying to figure out why your phone decides to update during the biggest moment of the game. But here’s the truth: your person won’t be perfect, and neither are you. What matters is that you find someone whose imperfections don’t scare you away, but instead invite you in. Someone who makes you think, “Life is wild, but at least we’re in the same roller coaster cart together.” As we dive into this topic over the next week, I promise you’ll hear truths you already know deep down—and ideas you may have never considered.

In today's world, with swipe culture, rush culture, and “bare minimum is the new trend” culture, finding a genuine human connection feels like winning the emotional lottery. But think about it: you don’t need 10,000 matches on a dating app; you need one person who makes you feel like home. The one who remembers how you take your coffee, who’s still there even when you're having a 2-out-of-10 kind of day, and who shows up consistently—not just when it's convenient. And it isn’t just romance—we’re talking friendships, partnerships, family dynamics. The right person is someone you find through honesty, patience, self-awareness, and yes, a little bit of faith. Sometimes your person shows up when you finally stop forcing connections that drain you.

And here’s the life hack of it all: to find your person, you often have to become the version of yourself that your person is also searching for. You grow, you stretch, you learn, you heal. You stop trying to impress the world and start impressing your own soul. This week’s upcoming deep dive will help you understand exactly what that looks like. Because yes, relationships are hard—but the right relationship feels like alignment, like peace, like breathing easier. The right person doesn’t complete you; they compliment you. They don’t fix your life; they walk with you as you fix your own. And if that sounds like a tall order, just remember: people find their person every day… and so will you.

Be Positive, and have an amazing day.