Your Person, Part 6 - If You Think Your Relationship Is Random, Think Again.

“You and your person don’t choose each other randomly—you align with what feels true.”

Relationships can be challenging—beautiful at times, messy at times, and almost always revealing. Over the 5 days, we have unpacked what “your person” really looks like. Yesterday, we talked about how your person brings generosity, respect, and kindness into your world. Today’s truth might hit even deeper: you and your person don’t choose each other randomly. There’s something about your energy, your wounds, your strengths, your humor, your growth, your chaos, or your peace that connects to theirs. Ever notice how you’ll scroll through Instagram and instantly skip past content that doesn’t resonate—but stop on that one video that feels like it was posted just for you? People are the same way. You don’t “accidentally” choose the people who feel familiar; you gravitate toward the ones who speak to something inside you.

In today’s world, this shows up everywhere. Think about dating apps—swipe culture makes it feel random, but it never truly is. You pause on certain profiles because something in their smile, their answers, or their energy clicks with your internal wiring. Or consider friendships: we don’t just become close to the coworker who sits nearest to us—we become close to the one who gets our jokes, matches our pace, or understands our stress. Even Netflix algorithms understand this better than we do: you don’t get recommended shows randomly; you get recommendations based on what you’ve consistently chosen. People function the same way. Your person reflects what feels safe, what feels familiar, what feels exciting, or what feels like growth. You choose each other because something inside both of you says, “This fits.”

So today’s life hack is this: pay attention to what draws you to your people. Attraction isn’t luck—connection isn’t coincidence. Your person doesn’t just show up; they match your emotional frequency, your values, your patterns, or the healing your heart is craving. When you grow, your connections evolve. When you raise your standards, the energy you choose shifts. And when you learn your worth, you stop choosing people from your past and start choosing people who match your future. You and your person are not a random pairing—you’re a reflection of alignment, intention, and timing. And that’s where real connection becomes real purpose.

Be Positive, and have an amazing day.