When There Is No Silver Lining - Part 2 - Healing Is Not a Race—Stop Running It Like One

“Healing doesn’t care about your calendar.”

In this 3-part series, we are discussing how sometimes there is no silver lining. Yesterday we discussed the reality that pain doesn’t always come with meaning, and the next few days have centered on time—or, instead, the lack of rules around it. Today, we are diving deeper into your timeline in this process.

Here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud: healing doesn’t work on deadlines. There’s no universal timeline, no productivity chart, no “you should be better by now” milestone that actually means anything. One person might process heartbreak in a weekend. Another might need months before the weight even shows up. Both are normal. Comparing your healing to someone else’s is like comparing sleep schedules—everyone’s wired differently, and forcing it never works.

Pressure is where the damage happens. Pressure from others—“You’re still upset about that?” Pressure from culture—“Move on, glow up, stay positive.” And pressure we place on ourselves—because we don’t want to feel stuck, dramatic, or behind. But healing isn’t about speed; it’s about safety. Your nervous system doesn’t care about your calendar. It cares about whether it finally feels allowed to exhale.

The life hack is releasing the stopwatch. Letting go of timelines doesn’t mean giving up—it means giving yourself room. Room to process in layers. Room to have good days followed by heavy ones. Room to function on the outside while still sorting things out on the inside. Healing isn’t linear, and it’s definitely not a competition. The only pace that matters is the one that doesn’t break you.

Be Positive, and have an amazing day.